Sunday, 25 October 2015

On Samhain

According to Irish mythology, Samhain (like Beltane) was a time when the 'doorways' to the Otherworld opened, allowing supernatural beings and the souls of the dead to come into our world; but while Beltane was a summer festival for the living, Samhain "was essentially a festival for the dead". The Boyhood Deeds of Fionn says that the sídhe (fairy mounds or portals to the Otherworld) "were always open at Samhain".

Tuesday, 16 June 2015

In The Crosshairs

There’s a near hysterical amount of hatred that can show up against transgender people at any moment,


The Transgender Americans report says transgender men and women face discrimination at almost every turn, from finding a public bathroom, to renting an apartment, to getting and keeping a job, to going to school, to being treated with dignity and respect by the police. “Between 13% and 47% of transgender workers,” the report says, “report being unfairly denied a job, and 78% report being harassed, mistreated, or discriminated against at work.” Currently, the report adds, only 18 states have clear laws prohibiting employment discrimination based on gender identity or expression.


Full Article: In The Crosshairs - Don Terry

Sunday, 12 April 2015

Why Social Networking Makes Us Less Social

There was once a time when people would only communicate in person. Although this is before our lifetimes, human beings once had to actually talk to one another — with their mouths! As the world got bigger, those that we wished to talk to no longer resided in the same village, so we had no choice but to write letters.

As technology advanced, our impatience grew — we no longer wished to wait for the mail to arrive by postman or pigeon, we wanted a faster way to talk with our friends and business partners: hence the invention of texting and email. Okay sure, this isn’t an exact history of our advancements in communication, but I think you get the picture: humans were once required to interact in person, while now we very well may have never even met the person we are chatting with.

With the evolution of communication, human relationships are themselves evolving. We now have the ability to maintain friendships with those we know overseas — an instantaneous correspondence that before was impossible. We now have the ability to stay in touch with our friends and family throughout the day without having to spend the time required of traveling to meet them.

We can call, we can text, we can email, we can tweet or send messages via the endlessly expanding list of applications available at any app store. All of this is for the love of convenience. The less time that we spend interacting, the more interactions we can have and the more time that we have for other things. Unfortunately, what many people are slowly coming to realize is that more is not always better; avoiding face-to-face communication has a huge downside.

Since there are only so many hours in a day, the more interactions we have in any given day, the shorter those interactions must be. In this day and age, we attempt to make such interactions as quick as manageable, avoiding actual conversations if at all possible. We don’t want to meet in person and we prefer not to have to dial a number and talk over the phone.

It is as if we as a society have gotten together and decided that our breath is not worth wasting and ought to be saved at all cost. Having more “free time,” we end up either filling our day with dozens of these “conversations” or filling the extra time that we have left over with pointless tasks — tasks that would be better avoided altogether. Like watching our stories on TV — or rather, on our computers; we don’t have the time to wait around and watch a show when it airs. We watch it whenever we feel we want to watch it via the Internet.

We no longer converse — we share information. We no longer use words — we use textese, using abbreviations and acronyms. We have concluded that people have nothing more to offer other than information about themselves or the world, and for this reason, we see no reason why we ought to spend time interacting in person.

Why bother going out to dinner when you can either text your friend to see how he is doing or follow him on Twitter and get live updates on his life without even having to make your presence known? Skipping dinner is probably a good idea anyway, seeing as how chances are that you will spend more time with your eyes glued to your smartphone than you will talking… or eating.

Is there not a reason why long distance relationships fail so miserably? Is it only because we have yet to figure out a way to satisfy ourselves sexually via tech gadget? Do long distance relationships not suffer due to lack of in-person interaction? If you have ever been in a long distance relationship that has failed, you know the importance of being physically present in the same room. There is much to be told and heard by use of body language.

The way a person stands, the way they hold their arms, the eye contact they make or refuse to make all gives us vital information that is lost when all forms of communication are virtual. Even the way a person says something — how quickly and eloquently they say it or the pauses in between words — tells us a lot about their inner workings and true meanings. If you want to know what a person is really feeling and thinking, it is not what they say that matters most, but how they say it.

Our communication skills are slowly shriveling. Oration was once considered a great skill — a skill only reserved for those with wealth, power and titles. Nowadays public speaking seems difficult and the associated skills unnecessary. We can now hold the attention of our audience with PowerPoint presentations — or even better, avoid speaking to a large audience altogether.

As online dating is becoming more and more popular, I would not be surprised if in the next two or three decades, the art of the pick-up will have to be revamped to an online format — and the Kama Sutra tweaked to serve the purpose of cyber sex. We are all trying to avoid the real world and are beginning to forge digital lives that are separate and removed from reality. Maybe this cyber-world is so attractive because it coincides with our belief or hope of a reality outside the physical world. Cyberspace is replacing spirituality.

We no longer stop to smell the roses — in fact, we don’t stop. Our society encourages us to minimize input, maximize efficiency and maximize output — do less and get more. We are under the influence of the false notion that squeezing in 20 micro-conversations into a single day is more fulfilling than one real conversation.

I mean, we are being social; there are so many people in the world, shouldn’t we try and socialize with as many of them as possible? There is a reason why those who have a handful of closer friends tend to be much happier than those with many shallow friendships. It’s not the quantity that matters, but the quality.

A proper relationship requires time to grow and develop. Friendship is not only the sharing of thoughts and information, but the act of experiencing things together. Communication becomes more diluted the more virtual we go. Luckily, I do believe this to be not more than a phase — a phase that human kind will leave just as quickly as we entered.

As can be seen on many social networking platforms, people are getting bored. We are beginning to realize that we don’t really give a sh*t what Sally ate for breakfast, nor do we actually want to know where Steve got alcohol poisoning last night — probably because we have never met either of them. We will all come back around to living life the way it should be lived: in this reality. The question is whether or not we will remember how to use our words when such a time comes.

Author / Source: Paul Hudosn at Elite Daily

Monday, 6 April 2015

Defending The Use Of Labels (aka Adjectives)

 I really feel like I shouldn’t have to justify this, but since it’s such a common argument that we-who-choose-to-use-labels come across on the internet, I figured it deserved some actual attention. Quick note: the labels that usually come under fire are ones specifically geared to describe gender and/or orientation.

It goes like this: “I don’t get why people are so obsessed with using all these labels. Why can’t you just be, like, a human being? Aren’t you just creating more division by making up all these categories? Blah blah blah, special snowflake, blah.” (I was going to add more to that, but it kinda sounds like that to me after a while. You get the point.)

Well, to start, it shouldn’t matter to you what language people use to describe themselves. If someone asks you to use certain pronouns or something, respect that. Apart from that, your involvement is not needed.

Here’s the main thing. To quote Anita Sarkeesian: “I know it sounds super basic — Comm Studies 101 – but having the language to name things in the world is really powerful.” Sarkeesian is talking about naming certain tropes in media, but it seemed like a statement which perfectly matches this argument.

If you grow up in a culture in which certain attributes are considered “normal,” and you don’t perfectly fit those expectations, it becomes essential to have words to describe your experience. Otherwise, you feel isolated and freakish, like there’s something wrong with you for not being normal. If no words exist to describe how you feel, then obviously no human has ever felt the same way.

For example, if you’re experiencing gender dysphoria and suddenly you discover that trans people exist, you feel validated. You’re no longer just some weirdo who has some neurotic inability to Just Be Yourself. The language exists, so now you understand yourself better, and you can help other people understand you better. You have found commonality and community with others who experience the world in a similar way.

It’s not as though we reach into a hat full of words and pick a few and then conform ourselves to those ideas. We have an individual experience and THEN create language to describe how we feel, relative to others. The inability to understand this concept reminds me a lot of how some people don’t seem to understand that science begins with nothing but observations and then forms conclusions, rather than starting with a conclusion and trying to selectively find evidence to support it.

Humans are extremely varied in their personalities and characteristics. Since no two people are alike, it helps to have terms to describe one person as distinct from another. The existence of people who believe in gods necessitates the existence of a term to describe those who don’t. It’s particularly frustrating to have this argument with atheists, who are choosing to use a label to describe one facet of themselves. It’s hypocritical to distinguish yourself in this way, and then side-eye people who use specific terminology to describe their gender or sexual orientation.

I’m sure atheists are tired of having theists ask them why they would define themselves by what they don’t believe in. I am equally tired of having atheists call into question my decision to use concise terminology to describe my gender and various orientations.

This is (most of) my Twitter bio: Genderqueer, poly-pansexual, atheist+ blogger, activist, Whovian, and gamer living with depression. They/them/their.

That’s much more concise than describing that my gender is something between man and woman but sort of both but neither. Or that I experience affection for many people at once, and with people of any gender. Or that I don’t believe in gods but do believe in social justice. Or that I’m an avid fan of Doctor Who. I can explain those things in detail, but I don’t always have the space to do so, and it’s much easier to have a single term to describe a complicated issue than having to write it out every time. If I say I’m an atheist, you immediately understand what that means.

The real question is: How do you go through life without any distinguishing characteristics? Identifying with a race, a religious group, a gender, an orientation, a political party, are all uses of labels. Some people need to use labels for things that you don’t, and disagreeing with it on principle is a huge blaring sign of privilege. Even identifying as a human being is accepting a label which describes a fact about your existence.

I’m glad that cis people don’t feel bad about their gender, and don’t need separate terminology to describe their life experiences. That doesn’t mean that cis people just get to be “normal” and everyone else has to be an aberration. I’m glad that sexual people like having sex, but asexual people don’t need to feel like aliens because sexual people refuse to acknowledge that some people just don’t want to DO IT.

This whole post was spurred on by my finally being able to describe myself as demisexual. Sometimes, personal experiences are hard to understand and come to terms with, and I’m SO thankful that language exists to describe this part of me. I’m glad that other people don’t have this difficulty, but their lack of a need to describe their sexuality doesn’t change my need to describe mine.

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